Contemplate This: How Brian Tracy Uses "I am responsible!" to Resolve Negative Emotions.
The negative emotions of fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, feelings of inferiority, and ultimately anger are mostly caused by four factors. Once you identify and remove these factors from your thinking, your negative emotions stop automatically.
The four root causes of negative emotions are:
1. Justification. You can be negative only as long as you can justify to yourself that you are entitled to be angry and upset for some reason.
2. Rationalization. When you rationalize, you attempt to give a socially acceptable explanation for an otherwise socially unacceptable act. You create an explanation that sounds good but is not good.
3. Hypersensitivity. Almost everything we do to earn the respect of others or at least to avoid losing their respect leads to anger, embarrassment, shame, feelings of inferiority and even depression, self-pity, and despair.
4. Blame. The propensity to blame other people for our problem is the trunk of the tree of negative emotions. Once you cut down the trunk of the tree, all the fruits of the tree - all the other negative emotions - die immediately.
Responsibility is the antidote.
Simply say "I am responsible!" and you free yourself from neagtive emotions, begin taking control of your life, and short-circuit and cancel out any negative emotions you may be experiencing.
Saying "I am responsible!" whenever you start to feel upset frees you mentally and emotionally so you can begin to channel your energies and enthusiasms in a forward direction.
Without saying "I am responsible!" to negative emotions, no progress is possible.
Once you start saying "I am responsible!" to negative emotions, there are no limits on what you can be, do, and have.
Adapted from Brian Tracy's great book "Goals!"
My comment: There really is no such thing as a justified resentment!